Life is what it is. Is it fair? For very much of my life, I have based a lot of my decisions on whether or not the decision I made was fair. It’s been a journey of ‘lessons’ that have taught me the contradictions that have lead to the scales not being balanced. For example a favourite ‘go to’ phase is to ‘be yourself’. After being treated ‘less than’ many times,  I have felt that I have had to conform to way of connecting with others that allows a me a space of protection from judgement, because to be honest, people tend to be more harsh than kind when I talk honestly about my vulnerabilities. (At all levels, professionally, and personally) There’s something about showing weakness to some people that lends them to a place of confidence about themselves.

There is a small comfort in knowing that I am not the only one that has had this experience. When writing, as when I am speaking I try to be ‘mindful’ and stick to the facts as much as possible, and will ‘own’ (good or bad) my opinion. A new discovery in self love. So many times people have offered the opinion of I should ‘love myself’ without really taking the time or effort to show me. Obviously, there are a million self help suggestions, in black and white, but the beauty in ‘knowing’ what it ‘feels’ like is indeed the journey to Winning our own Love.  At the end of the day, all we can hope for is that “Love Wins.”

Heather Ann Jarman 2016